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citysocializer guide: being more sociable when you’re naturally an introvert


The word introvert can sometimes produce a string of negative connotations such as shy, anti-social, and aloof. However, what if we at citysocializer told you that this was a bit of a misconception? Trade the words shy for reserved, anti-social for introspective and aloof for analytical, and then you might get a more accurate picture.

The main difference between introverts and extroverts is that extroverts gain energy from social interaction, whilst introverts revitalise through solitude. They have to seek peace and quiet so that they can reflect on their thoughts and feelings. They also tend to favour deep conversation over small talk, and they like to analyse and think things over before putting things into action. It’s not necessarily a reflection of being timid, but perhaps more a reflection of being very thoughtful and cautious (which is hardly a bad thing).

In fact you’ll find that many of the world’s most successful people have introverted personalities. From scientists, politicians, writers, filmmakers, to musicians and movie stars. There’s an abundance of talent in the introverted mind! Albert Einstein, Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, J.K Rowling, Steven Spielberg, Woody Allen, Christina Aguilera, Audrey Hepburn and Gwyneth Paltrow are, perhaps unexpectedly, among some of the most famous introverts. You know, just to name a few.

If you’re an introvert wanting to meet new people but clubs and bars aren’t your thing, check out our suggestions to help you meet like-minded people:

Visit museums and galleries

A room full of people appreciating the same beautiful paintings and sculptures created by some of the world’s most talented artists, is a room full of like-minded people. Sure, there will be artistic differences, but the point is you can find people that also enjoy thinking, reflecting and mulling things over in the same way that you do. The great thing is that many museums do social based events every once in a while, which makes it easier to meet people. For example, every last Wednesday of the month The Science Museum in London holds a late night opening where you can explore the museum after hours. They even have a speed dating event! Or if that’s not your thing then head over to the V&A museum which stays open ‘til 10pm every Friday.

Go to a comedy club

Okay it has the word “club” in it, but it’s not that kind of club. You’ll be watching a bunch of hilarious people on stage, and you don’t have to worry about making the jokes. Just sit back, relax and show everyone your best impersonation of a hyena (we mean laugh).

 Go on a walking tour

This is a nice, relaxing way of discovering the places around you, and because you’re usually in a small group you inevitably get talking to people.

Get back into education

We don’t mean get a degree, although you can if you like, we mean take a short course, or go to a one off seminar based on a subject or skill of your interest. Various universities, colleges and museums do short courses/ one off seminars, where you can learn a bit more about something you’ve always been interested in but may not have had the chance to explore previously. It’s a great way to meet new people with similar interests.

Try travelling alone

There’s nothing wrong with flying solo. You see what we did there? Ahem… but seriously, there’s nothing wrong with doing an Eat, Pray, Love. Just ask Julia Roberts, she ran into Javier Bardem! Anyway, travelling alone can be a great time for self-reflection and self-discovery, and it’s also a brilliant way to learn about different cultures. For example, you can try taking a cooking class abroad which is a great way to make friends and become an expert at a new cuisine.

If all else fails, there’s a beautiful quote by writer Augusten Burroughs where he sums up how to meet new people quite nicely:

“I used to feel so alone in the city. All those gazillions of people and then me, on the outside. Because how do you meet a new person? I was very stunned by this for many years. And then I realized, you just say, “Hi.” They may ignore you. Or you may marry them. And that possibility is worth that one word.” 

So greet people and smile, because you’ll never know until you start with hello.

This post was written by

Rebecca Acres

I'm currently enjoying my time here at citysocializer. All aspects of creativity get me going, be it theatre, music, film, literature or fashion. I love it all, and where's a better place to start than London?