A lot of people want to know how to make new friends and even more people are happy to give their advice on the matter. Is all that advice good? Not always. Here’s some of the worst advice we’ve ever heard about meeting people.
Find friends who are like you
This one we really disagree with. Friendships are important and they make you grow as a person. And yes, it’s important to have things in common with your friends but you shouldn’t be exactly the same. Think of it like two circles intersecting. Some of the are is overlapping but the rest is not. Strong friendships are built on trust, honesty and kindness. You don’t need your friends to always agree with you. You want them to be there for you even when you disagree.
If you fight you shouldn’t be friends any more
This one is based on a good policy, which is removing toxic people from your life. That’s great, but you need to be able to distinguish when someone is toxic and is arguing with you just to put you down or they actually have your best interests at heart and they’re trying to help you. Communication is very important in this case and knowing your friend well to know why they are arguing with you. If you have a fight, talk about it. See why you might have different opinions on the matter and if necessary agree to disagree on that particular subject. A good friend will still be there for you even if you choose not to take their advice.
You should only have 1 best friend
Lots of people believe this one but we are not convinced. There is no rule that says you can’t have 2 or 3 best friends if you want to. Think about it like having siblings. You can have as many as you want and you love and trust them all. Best friends are people you choose to elevate from the friend status to practically family because they have proven themselves to you through their actions. And family has enough love for many people.
Friendship is the greatest gift you can receive from someone so you shouldn’t limit yourself by following the wrong advice. You can’t be friends with everyone, but if you could, it would definitely not be a bad thing.