Meeting people for friendship is what citysocializer is all about and we are the experts in helping people make new friends and expand their social circle. While we already know how to meet new people, we wanted to find out what it is exactly that people enjoy when meeting people for friendship, so we went out in the street and talked to lots of different kinds of people, from different backgrounds, different ages and different social groups.
We were astonished to find out that the majority of the people we talked to particularly enjoy meeting people who are different than them. A huge part of the experience of meeting new people is to get to know another person’s experiences, their life story and what they’ve been through. Learning more about the people around you helps you expands your horizons and understand the bigger picture of life as a whole. Everyone we spoke to pointed out that when you get to know someone new, you find out what has shaped them into the people they are now and you learn important things about life through hearing their experiences, especially when it’s something you might not have the chance to live yourself.
Meeting new people for friendship means that you get to start hanging out and spending time together. We found out that part of the appeal of a new friendship is that you get to try out new hobbies and have new experiences. Your new friends will show you what they enjoy doing in their free time and you will show them your favourite activities too so you both get new fun things to do, which otherwise you may have not thought of trying out before.
On the opposite side, several people mentioned how they like sharing their own story when meeting new friends and finding common ground when they meet someone new. Common ground is a great way to start a friendship, you can always feel closer to someone new if you know you’ve had some shared experiences and those can vary from having travelled to the same places, coming from the same background, having similar jobs or even something more serious like both having been through some tough times in your life and understanding the strength it took you both to overcome those difficulties.
All of these commonalities help you connect with new people and know that you are not alone because there are people like you who understand you and you can talk to. Some of the people we talked to mentioned that meeting new friends is a great way to combat depression, because it gets rid of any feelings of loneliness and you know there is someone to turn to when you need them.
What we found particularly interesting was how much people wanted to know what their new friends’ dreams and aspirations are. Finding out their goals in life, what they wish to achieve and what motivates them was something they believe is quite important when you start a new friendship. Being able to find shared values through that and even motivate each other to chase after your goals was something that people considered quite important. We were told that several of our interviewees like being able to look up to their friends and that the purpose of new friendships is to make you a better person. Knowing that being friends will help you both in your life makes you more willing to work for the friendship, as you know that what is best for your friend is also best for you.
Finally, most people admitted they simply find it exciting meeting new people for friendship and they enjoy the process of getting to know one’s personality and spending time with new people. In the end, meeting new people for friendship benefits everyone involved, helps you grow as a person and also makes you happier in life and broadens your horizons.
If you want to meet some new people and make new friends and you don’t know where to start, why not give citysocializer a go? With thousands of members and hundreds of socials happening every month, you will have plenty of opportunities to create new friendships and spends fun days and nights out meeting fun groups of new people.